Most of us grew up oblivious to an advantage. An advantage that made people put us on pedestal, something that made us better somehow. We grew up trying to align our life in a certain perfect way, in the ‘’should be like this’’ phrase and it worked but, unfortunately, just for some time. Turns out, reality of life is worse than our expectations. Maybe you were the student with straight As or the cricket team captain or you were the cool one who set trends. Maybe you didn’t had to study much but getting good grades just happened, maybe cricket came naturally to you so you became the best or maybe you just had an advantage and enjoyed it but didn’t know how you got it. You learned to be competitive and strive harder.
People around us assumed, considering bright past achievements, that future will hold the same for us so we started believing it. This made us, the ‘’special cases’’, excessively ambitious. Somewhere in our subconscious mind we thought that ‘’ Life should be easy and work well’’, this kindled an epic thirst for ‘’success’’. Basically, we had a privilege that set us apart from our peers and that privilege is success. Success makes one special, right? Right. While special cases are ambitious but also delusional. We were deceived to believe an illusion because of our bright past. Unfortunately for us, this was all too convenient, a way to escape the discomfort of taking responsibility and changing things. After all, it is easy to believe we are special and hard to get your hands dirty while working.
Special cases are overly ambitious.
Special cases are delusional.
Special cases have difficulty in managing life.
Don’t be like Special cases.
Special cases should stay excessively ambitious, this world is filled with opportunities but they should stop thinking they’re special. One can become successful by working hard and making right choices.
It boils down to this, we are not getting where we want to go because we don’t know how to do life the hard way. Funny thing about life is that it turns out to be not that easy and even funnier thing is it’s actually quite hard but we can’t accept that. Entitlement is myth, it keeps us from tackling challenges and finding success. Life is just not giving us our deserts and it doesn’t come in a black and white narrative. There are grey areas. It is suppose to be flawed, flawed to the extent that it teaches us something, makes us better and helps us grow. We’ll fail and struggle and still have room to grow. Power and success, as we define them, don’t impart wisdom. As Mitch Album states in his novel ‘’ Have a little faith’’,
‘’ I use to think I knew everything. That I was a ‘smart’ person who ‘got things done’ and because of that, the higher I climbed, the more I could look down and scoff at what seemed silly or simple, even religion. But I realized something as I drove home that night: that I am neither better nor smarter, only luckier. And I should be ashamed of thinking I knew everything, because you can know the whole world and still feel lost in it. So many people are in pain- no matter how smart or accomplished – they cry, they yearn, they hurt. But instead of looking down on things, they look up, which is where I should have been looking, too. Because when world quiets to the sound of your own breathing, we all want the same things: comfort, love and a peaceful heart’’.
Everything you want in your life is within your reach but hard work is required. Everyone is entitled to achieve success, but success itself isn’t an entitlement. Healthy self-esteem is the key, keeping the ego reined encourages us to train harder and succeed. You are unique, with your unique perspectives and abilities and if done right you can utilize them to build the best success story ever.